Interview: A Q&A With My Mom

I interviewed my mom for the May issue's Editor's Note. Here's the complete Q&A with Cora, the undisputed queen of our clan:

I know you are cute,
I know you are funny.
I know you are sweet,
You're a lot like your mummy.

My mom scribbled that little rhyme to me in an autograph book back in my grade-school days, and it makes me smile to this day. Even though these days we live almost 800 miles apart and both of us lead busy lives, she still manages to help me along on this parenting journey, often with incredible wisdom, always with calm and patience, and usually with her trademark wit.

I thought I'd share a bit of her wisdom and humor by conducting a brief Q&A with my mom, who raised three girls and is a grandparent to one young woman (my mom won't let me reveal my niece's age), a 9-year-old girl and a 5-year-old boy.

Why is being a mom so difficult?
Because you have kids. That's what's wrong with this country.

Do you think we moms make raising kids more difficult, or is that our kids' faults?
Of course it's the kids.

Do you think being a mom is fun? Why or why not?
Yes, it's fun just thinking about them knowing that I am still the boss.
No, wait - some of them think they are on a pedestal, too.

What would you consider to be a few of your mothering "mistakes"?
I wish I had not thrown your pinwheel out the car window over the golf course.
I wish I had known that children who put kitties in the refrigerator needed more supervision.
I wish I had kept a closer eye on the kids' dog, before she ate 20 boxes of Camp Fire Girl candy.
I wish I had played more Monopoly with them, rather than finding out that the kids where throwing tomatoes at someone's white convertible passing by on the street.
I wish I had visited the school more so my daughter would not have gotten sent to the principal's office for throwing dirt clods with a boy (Editor's note: That wasn't me).
I wish I had not taken the caramel apples for a Halloween party to Carolyn's class in a Coor's beer box.

What would you consider to be your shining moments as a mom?
When Carolyn earned the top prize for candy sales (thanks, dog).
I did go on a lot of trips with the marching band, against her wishes. You are welcome.
Encouraged the kids to go to college.
Took them on summer vacations to California, Oregon, Texas, Florida, Colorado, Arizona, Wyoming, Bahamas, Mexico and oh, yeah, Las Vegas.
And I sold real estate, all while being a mom.
Whew! I am tired.

What makes a great Mother's Day in your mind?
Having all three of my girls and grandchildren together. If they cannot come, a nice gift will suffice.

Why was Carolyn your favorite child?
Because she is just like me.

Thanks, Mom, and Happy Mother's Day to you and all the moms out there! (Your gift is in the mail.)

Take Mama Downtown

Whenever my mom comes out for a visit, she always asks – or rather demands – that we take a trek downtown. She easily looks past this slightly grittier, urban side of Los Angeles and rather focuses on the endless blocks of costume jewelry, clothing, bedding, craft supplies, fabric, food, attractions, toys and her favorite, assorted knick-knacks.

If you're wondering how to create a memorable Mother's Day (on May 10), consider these 10 nice little suggestions from the Downtown Center Business Improvement District (DCBID), many of which come with special offers:

1. Sample Downtown’s Culinary Delights: Celebrate Mother’s Day with brunch at the outdoor Blue Ribbon Garden at the Walt Disney Concert Hall or at the Grand Café at the Omni Los Angeles Hotel. You can also enjoy a special pre fixe dinner at Roy’s Hawaiian Fusion Cuisine. The Grand Café and Roy’s have created special deals exclusively for the DCBID.


2. Delight in Afternoon Tea: Relax in the afternoon and enjoy the wonderful tradition of aromatic tea, delicious pastries and desserts, finger sandwiches and delightful conversation with your mom with exclusive DCBID packages at the Japanese American National Museum and SipTea. Treat her to Asian-inspired treats and tea at the museum or healthy, organic dishes at SipTea. The Millennium Biltmore Hotel is transforming its Rendezvous Court into a live garden for this special occasion and hosting tea for Mom.


3. Wine Tastings in the City: Test your knowledge of colors, flavors and smells of various wines at the San Antonio Winery, the last of the 100+ producing wineries that once lined the L.A. River Basin. The winery is offering an exclusive DCBID package that includes free wine tasting, a winery tour and a Mother’s Day menu as well as complimentary glass of sparkling wine. You can also treat Mom with a delicious brunch, created exclusively for DCBID, at the new Corkbar. Check out its wide selection of wines afterward.


4. Shop Til You Drop: Make mom feel like a VIP with exclusive DCBID offers at Tiara Café, the Museum of Contemporary Art (MOCA) Store and the L.A. Philharmonic Store. Known as the Fashion District’s trendiest spot, Tiara is the place to be to savor fashionably gourmet and healthy courses.  Also, receive a gift certificate for a personal shopping trip with Urban Shopping Adventures. End your tour of the MOCA at its store and receive a free gift or a 10% discount at the LA Phil Store by mentioning the DCBID.


5. Relax and Pamper: If your mom needs a day of relaxation, pamper her with spa services with the DCBID exclusive “Mother’s Day Mix-and-Match Spa Treatments” at the Hilton Checkers Spa on its sunny roof spa or indoors at its serene spa. Mix and match different 30-minute treatments for your mom and for yourself. If you’re planning to stay the night, just add a room for two at the very reasonable price of $149 per night, plus tax. Also, check out Neihule, a sophisticated urban oasis on Olive Street, and sign up for one of three different Mother’s Day spa packages, all exclusive to the DCBID. While being pampered, enjoy an assortment of teas and sandwiches.


6. Absorb the Arts: If your mom enjoys live theater and musical acts,  surprise her with tickets to a classical concert, “Bronfman Plays Prokofiev,” at the Walt Disney Concert Hall or snap your fingers and tap your toes to “Ain’t Misbehavin’: The Fats Weller Musical Show” at the Ahmanson Theatre.


7. Marvel at Rare, Museum Collections: If your mom likes to take in some history, modern or ancient, then she can peruse the new GRAMMY Museum, which offers an exciting and interactive celebration of the power of music. Mention DCBID on Mother’s Day, and moms get in for FREE when accompanied by their children. Nearby, learn about Dan Graham, a central figure in the development of contemporary art since the 1960s, with a free Mother’s Day tour of the “Dan Graham: Beyond” exhibit at MOCA.  Or check out the Central Library and awe at the sketches, figure drawings and building renderings by Richard Neutra, one of modernism’s most important architects.


8. Dabble in Downtown’s Diversity: If Mom likes exploring, then hop on a nighttime bus tour of neon signs, movie marquees and permanent installations of contemporary neon art through Downtown and Hollywood, offered by the Museum of Neon Arts. Also, explore the rich architecture and history of the magnificent Biltmore Hotel, which was known in its early days as the “The Host of the Coast.” Over the years, the Biltmore played nonstop host to high society, international political figures, movie stars and royalty.


9. Pack a Picnic: If you’re looking for something low-key, then laze around on a grassy knoll at Elysian Park, a green haven right in the back yard of Downtown L.A.  You can also try Downtown’s Vista Hermosa Park, which features walking trails, streams and picnic grounds amid native Mediterranean vegetation. Both are free!  You can purchase a basket of goodies for a picnic at Ralphs Fresh Fare, Bottega Louie or any of the Famima locations in Downtown.


10. Downtown Getaways: For the mom who wants to stay and make a weekend of her trip to Downtown, several marquee hotels are offering DCBID exclusives. The Wilshire Grand is offering the “Just for You Package,” which includes an Executive Jr. Suite, $50 food and beverage credit and other amenities for just $229.  At the Millennium Biltmore, whisk your mom away for a relaxing weekend in one of the Classic or Club Level rooms, from $239-$289.  For quality time for both parents, check out the “French Kiss Package for Moms and Dads” at the Omni Hotel. The Omni is sealing the special getaway with champagne and French toast breakfast in bed.